Big boys Do cry

Big Boys DO cry!!! But who is listening? Benjamin Disraeli’s quip, "There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies, and statistics," has often been proven true in today’s media, but here are a few hard numbers that tell it like it is: Between 1997 and 2015, more than 75% of all 4,315 suicides in...

How Long Does Grief Last?

So how long does grief last? This is the most frequently asked question by grievers. Depending on with whom they speak, they will be bombarded by a variety of answers that really offer them no useful information. We need to first look at some of this “misinformation” before we look at the truth! The timelines...

The Meaning of the Word “Recovery” in Grief Recovery

Recovery means different things to different people. Some people are perturbed by the word "recovery" because they associate it with things like substance abuse problems or the series of actions in, for example, twelve-step programmes. "Grief is not a disease or addiction!" some people might say. Some people may react to the word "recovery" angrily...

Doctor, psychologist, therapist, counsellor . . . I am NONE of these

I suppose, as a Grief Recovery specialist, if I needed to have a professional label, it would be “Educator”. Why? Because I teach people to move beyond the pain of grief and complete their loss. People ask, “Is there REALLY such a thing as grief recovery? “My constant reply is, “Grief recovery is not only...

Big boys don’t cry . . . oh, really?

Being told to “man up”, “be strong”, “hide your feelings”, and all the other so-called appeals to virility are just variations on one of the six myths of grief. Let’s cut to the chase here, guys: grief is a normal and natural response to loss – and by the way, there are more than forty...